So I'm watching The Today Show yesterday morning while eating my breakfast and I see a teaser for an upcoming story. Evidently a female sports reporter was sexually harassed by some NY Jets players and coaches at a practice earlier this week.
My first reaction was, of course, to be irritated at these men who can't be professional and only think with their, well, you know.
Then they showed the sports reporter who was harassed and my opinion changed completely.
Take a look at the story:
Now, I have to hand it to her - she's obviously very accustomed to this type of a response from men in her line of work, because it really doesn't seem to phase her at all. She doesn't appear to be bothered by it and in fact, she states that had another female reporter not brought it to her attention (and the attention of the associations involved), she certainly wouldn't have.
It appears that other women were more angered by this situation that she was, and as one woman put it in this interview, it doesn't matter what she was wearing (skin tight pants or see-through lingerie), that's not a license to commit sexual harassment.
While I agree to some extent, part of me thinks this lady is nuts! Of course it matters! If you wear see-through lingerie and walk into an NFL locker room to conduct interviews, what do think is going to happen? Do you honestly think they will all look you in the eye?
I believe, as women, we have to take some level of responsibility for the way we dress and the attention we draw. If I wear a shirt that is cut down to my belly button and my boobs are barely contained, I don't think that I can then be appalled by the comments and "cat calls" that I might receive from the men I may come in contact with.
If you want to be look at, thought of, and responded to as a professional, then you need to act the part. And that doesn't include a shirt that's cut down to your belly button.
Disclaimer: Honestly, from watching the news story, this woman appears to be a nice person. I don't know her personally, obviously, and I have nothing against her. Also, please note that we are not talking about rape here. That's a whole other can of worms and that's not what this post is about. Although the topics are related somewhat, in this post, I'm only talking about the way we dress vs. the reactions we receive.